Angela Giles

Rejection is a powerful tool , that people use when they don’t want to deal with someone or something.   It is the one aspect of human relationships that most people avoid like the plague.  In fact, some people would like to pretend that it does not even exist.

The sad truth is that it VERY much exists and it is a powerful and potent reality that keeps people succeeding in building solid, strategic relationships with potential business partners.   In some cases, a person will not even initiate contact with a perfectly perfect candidate simply out of fear of rejection.

Often, when a person fears rejection, they really fear the following emotions:   depression, lack of friends, and perception of being weak, being gossiped about, being made fun of, failure and fear of success.

Can you imagine if one did not have to worry about such things?    Everyone would achieve some measure of success in their business and their personal lives.    That would be the perfect world!  However, we live in an imperfect world.   So, the question becomes how does a person learn to deal with rejection?  It really is a simple answer.

Before, I share the answer with you.   I want to tell you a real story.  Something profoundly simple that happened to a friend of mine:   I had a group of friends that all hung out and played together.  We had a lot of fun.   I really enjoyed myself and thought I was very lucky and blessed.  You see, I have always been the type of person who has several friends but I found that I had so much in common with these people.  It was truly a delight to be around them.   

Then I started noticing something strange.   One of the girls, I will call her Sally, began to pick at me and make little snide remarks.    I was really surprised because that very rarely happened to me.   I was always friendly and kind to those around me.    To make a long story short, she was a one person kind of friend and had a hard time sharing several friends at once.    She was afraid of being rejected by me and by other friends.   She then began to break confidences, twisted them to her benefit, shared them with others and started alienating friends from one another.   Sadly, our group of friends is no longer friends.    Simply because one person, who was not confident in herself, began to sabotage her and others out of complete fear of rejection.

So what is the lesson that I am trying to teach you here?   One must have belief in oneself in order to be free of the fear of rejection.     Have you ever done one of the following things?

• Redone a social media video 100 times
• Not shared your thoughts with a acquaintance , business contact or friend
• Did not talk to that person sitting next to you – who seemed to have it all together
• Afraid to reach out to a guru in your niche thinking they will think you are “stupid or inexperienced”
• Not published a web page or a blog because it was not perfect and others would reject you?
• Gotten angry when someone disagrees with your point of view online or in person?
• Not spent the money on that seminar that would have been perfect for you..cuz you are going to fail anyway.
• Can’t accept a compliment from someone.

These are all a common theme that runs in people who FEAR being rejected.    The way to overcome that is to start believing in you.   It means having self validation. Simply, it does not matter what other people believe about you, say about you or how they act around you.    What matters is what you think about you!  

When you start believing in yourself, you will be projecting out vibes that say, “I believe in me”.   Others will start being attracted to you and you will move to a whole new level.  You will be surrounded by people who believe in themselves and accomplish great and powerful things!

So how do you start believing in yourself?    The first thing to do is began to self evaluate and figure out why you should believe in yourself and what you have to offer your own unique self.

Then reach inward to begin the process of self validation.   Here is a list of suggestions that will help you along that pathway:

1. Read and listen to positive books and cds.
2. Pray and Meditate to a Higher Power, a Living God.
3. Take walks and self reflect.
4. Take quiet time and let the impressions start flowing inward.
5. Surround yourself with positive people, people that you want to become like.
6. Never stay angry, it takes away from your soul.
7. Accept yourself, no matter what.

As you began this journey of self validation you will eventually began to Believe in Yourself.   Along the way, your life will improve and powerful, incredible things will began to materialize.

God Bless You.

To your continued success and personal growth,

Ange:-)

Teaching Empowerment to Others